We wanted to know what the best backpage replacement is in 2019, so we asked everyone to vote from a list of 50 alternatives.
Here are the results of that poll, sorted from best to worst. We also tested ten of the top alternatives ourselves, and you can read about our experiences (and see the pics and rates of the providers we met) in the second half of this post.
Backpage was taken down by the FBI after the FOSTA SESTA law was passed in March 2018. FOSTA stands for 'Fight online sex trafficking act' and makes all websites legally responsible for illegal trafficking ads posted on their sites. BP was then found guilty of sex trafficking of minors, raided, and shut down, its owners were sentenced to 40 years in prison.
To get around this law, new websites have to be off-shore, and not hosted on USA soil. Even so, they could still be blocked in united states by the FBI. Sites inside the USA like Adult Friend Finder and Doublelist, also get around the law by having staff dedicated to monitoring and removing illegal ads.
Considering their owners are in prison for decades, it's not likely BP will ever be up again. The FBI agents responsible for taking it down also announced they will try to take down the best replacements.
I've tested 27 different replacements since the shutdown, here are the sites i'd use again and again, and why i'd recommend them.
After Twitter started banning some of their profiles, sex workers got together and made Switter.at, a website that looks like twitter, but has the heart and soul of backpage. Switter itself stands for "Sex Worker Twitter" and it's an awesome tool for finding escorts.
After you sign up, you can go to https://listings.switter.at where you can scroll through all the newest ads for escorts near you. You can follow them and then see updates from them in your news feed. This is a great way to stay in touch with your favorite girls (or guys) and see if they have any special rates.
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And the best thing about Switter is that you never see spam or fake postings. Since all the escorts have profiles, you can tell whether or not they are real, and the fake ones get banned pretty quick. There's also no ads or fees, it's the non-profit equivalent of BP.
I got my first taste of Switter when I noticed a provider in my area had a black friday deal. Her name was Leila and she was one of the most attractive women I've ever been with: soft, submissive, with a slim figure, thick thighs, and a dirty mind. Her rate was a bit on the pricey side, at $200 an hour, but she was exceptional. There are other escorts with rates closer to the $100/hour range on Switter.at, too.
Tryst.link is a non-profit escort site that is operated by sex workers. Kinda like a Co-Op, each sex worker that signs up owns a piece of the pie.
So far it has about 10,000 registered providers with detailed pics, rates, and bios. It is more enjoyable to browse than backpage, and a lot more visual. I've purchased the services of 3 escorts in my local Minneapolis area so far. It all went smoothly and there was no spam or ads to wade through in order to find the perfect ladies.
One of the lovely ladies on Tryst is Sara, who has rates of $140 for incall and $160 for outcall.
One of my favourite parts about sex work is when I meet a new client and see them start off feeling nervous and shy, then watching as they become comfortable and happy. Few things make me as happy as providing my clients with a safe haven where they can escape the stress of their lives.
Adult Friend Finder is the biggest site for finding hookups (about 120 million members) and is home to kinky swingers, nymphs, and sex addicts.
After backpage went down I gave AFF a shot, and it exceeded my expectations big time. After 4 weeks I slept with 4 new women, and spent only $30 for membership fees.
It works by using this brilliant system with free members and gold members. Free members can message gold members, but they can't message other free members, and gold members can message anyone. The result is most of the women on there are free members and guys end up paying (kind of like a night club), this balances out the girl to guy ratio better than any hookup site i've found, and the result is the horny people are more responsive and easy to meet up with.
EscortDirectory.com is another good alternative for escorts. There's over 20,000 premium providers available all over the world, each with their own detailed ads.
You can search with filters, so it's easy to find pornstar escorts and escorts that are willing to fly to you.
Each ad has tons of details about your escort, you can see their pictures, their measurements, their incall and outcall rates, email, phone, and website, and their main bio. Here is Nikki's bio, an escort I used from escortdirectory.com when I was in Chicago and former backpage girl:
Hi ! My name is Nikki ! There can only be one BEST ESCORT in CHICAGO , and I am it !!! I am a tall , slender , sexy Vixen with the looks of a Super Model ! I love yoga and I love men ! I also have a PhD in the Art of Passion and Pleasure , and I use it often ! If you want to have a Great Time with a gorgeous , passionate woman who knows how to MAKE MAGIC ... Then I am your Girl !
Slixa is another website i have bookmarked. It's got a similar style to escortdirectory.com, very visual, lots of details, and premium escorts. The rates you pay here are a bit higher than sex you get on other sites, but it's worth it for the professionalism and gorgeous ladies available. They also 'verify' escorts so that you know you are getting the real deal, and not a scam or risky situation.
Here's a girl I found from Slixa, who switched to using it after BP shutdown:
Some say that I have an old soul. Im pretty down to earth and love making those around me smile. I am always discreet and your privacy is very important to me along with my comfort and safety. I always am dressed well for every occasion spent with one another. I look forward to our memorable date.
Bedpage looks like backpage, but with a more aggressive black and red color scheme. Despite this, it is pretty hard to actually find sex on bedpage. There is a lot of fake accounts and spam, and it took me a week of trying to finally get something real.
When it did work it felt like a good substitute, but i'm pretty sure the woman I found was the only real gal on bedpage in my city (Minneapolis). Right now the ratio of ads and spam to real people seems to be about 50 to 1.
I checked out other cities like Los Angeles, and there it seems to be more busy. So whether or not this site works, seems to depend on where you live, hopefully that changes in the future.
One twist on finding hookups are discreet dating websites. These are sites for committed people looking to 'cheat', the only condition is that you can't tell on them or expect much in the long-term.
Usually this means lots of middle age women who are above average in attractiveness. They use sites like Ashley Madison because they are free for women and it lets them find partners who will keep their secret.
I enjoy the secretive aspect of this kind of affair dating because it keeps things exciting. It feels like you are a teenager again sneaking out to meet a crush at 2AM. The only downside of AM is that it costs money for men to use, but is free for women. This helps them attract a bunch of women to sign up and be a part of the community.
Maybe you've heard of fetlife, a free social networking website for the kink community. It's kind of like facebook, except for BDSM and bondage.
Most people forget about the classifieds/personals section of fetlife though, which is a great bp substitute and a nice place to find hookups, escorts and casual sex for free.
The main classifieds section has over 100,000 members and is for 'doms' and 'slaves' to find people to fill the roles they are interested in. The only trouble I had with this section was that it covered the entire united states. I had an easier time posting an Ad about what I was seeking, rather than searching through the hundreds of unsorted USA ads.
To be more like backpage.com's classifieds, fetlife should separate this section by state, so it's easier to find people looking near you.
Doublelist is another good classifieds site for finding providers. You can post ads and view the ads of other people. It's a bit more censored though, and you can't post nudes or any explicit pics. The titles are also censored and you won't be able to post anything except 'phallus' and polite sounding words for body parts.
It also has phone verification so signing up can take a few minutes, however this is meant to help cut down on spam. However, I still found a lot of fake posts and ads in posts, which is annoying. It's growing all the time though and is good if you are looking for casual sex and escorts in bigger cities like LA.
Even though ebackpage looks exactly like backpage did, it's not quite as busy.
After searching the Minneapolis section I found many repeat ads and spam. When I did find a service that looked good I didn't receive any texts back from them. The site seems to be improving more and more though, with some promise in the near future. I'll keep checking back with it to see if it becomes the next big thing or not.
Yesbackpage is pretty much the same story and not exactly the best replacement at this time. It could use some more people, and there's quite a lot of spam. It's hosted in Germany, out of USA jurisdiction and FOSTA law, so they don't have moderators like AFF and doublelist does. Worth adding to the bookmarks, though, and checking back from time to time.
Oodle was one of the small guys in the USA classifieds game. They have been around for as long as backpage but they couldn't really compete until recently
Now Oodle has a growing personals sections. There are a few escorts that use this site, and it is more likely you will see people posting ads for casual sex.
Oodle also has a different type of user interface. You can see peoples images on their posts and filter by things like age and sex.
This app is like Tinder but for hooking up. You swipe left and right just like Tinder and can only message people that you match with.
I gave it a test to see if it worked, but haven't had any luck. I even tried buying a premium account but the quality is less than other hookup sites. If you feel like swiping i'd say Tinder is a better bet than using this.
If you go to Europe or South America people use OLX just as often to find escorts. And now people in the US are moving to the OLX personals section, too.
OLX classifieds really excels in one area, meeting foreigners to hook up with in your town. Because it is so popular in foreign countries like India, South Africa, Romania, Russia, Brazil, when those people visit USA they feel more comfortable using OLX and might not be aware of craigslist.
It's still tough to meet people locally, but if you like hooking up with foreign lady for free, this is a classified site worth trying.
This new law really hit hard and it's definitely a bummer to not have BP around. But, the new sites are fun to try and hopefully we seem to be ending up with options that are even better now that all the dust is settled.
My favorite new alternatives so far are Switter and Ashley Madison. If you feel like getting a longer relationship and finding a fuck buddy, then i'd recommend using AFF instead of backpage. If you feel like you are missing craigslist personals too you can view our giant list of craigslist personals alternatives.
Happy hunting and good luck out there!
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